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Indian Stereotypes

blog against racism

I have grown up knowing that non-Indians have certain stereotypes for Indians. As a first generation child in the US, I’ve gotten the best of both worlds. I was thinking about some of the most common stereotypes and how some of them are actually true. However, it bothers me to know that some people think these stereotypes hold true for all Indians.

Many are taking stereotypes to their advantage in media. A few years ago, a low budget movie came out called American Desi. Desi is a slang word for being Indian. It is about American born Indian college students who have a rough time in college when they meet students actually from India. These American raised kids feel embarrassed to be Indian because of the stereotypes they have to face. They are cultured enough to know that they are Indian but don’t have any respect for their heritage. Some of these include Indian people majoring in engineering, science, or math because these three fields of study are the most common. Another time of feeling humiliated when seeing an Indian professor eat typical Indian food in the dining hall. This article summarizes the situation these students were in. After this movie, several others came out that similarly made the same point of how difficult it is to be cultured as an Indian and an American.

Bad Karma?

culture

Most of us are not thinking about marriage until we graduate from school. Actually most college students across the U.S and western cultures do not expect people to get married till they are in their 20s. What if fate from our family was decided for us before reaching an appropriate age to marry? In Pakistan, three sisters named Abda, Amna and Sajda Khan, all around 18 years old are being forced to marry into their family’s enemy. “Vani is a tribal custom in which blood feuds are settled with forced marriages.” These girls are going to be mistreated and basically treated as slaves. Read this article.

Major Decisions

academics | education

Many of us have a rough idea of what we want to major or even what career we want to follow. But, at the same time there are plenty of those who do no know what they want to do with their lives in the near future. College is suppose to be about taking different classes and experiences. Right?
In this article, college freshman face major dilemna, it talks about how it might be to your disadvantage if you delay on figuring out what you’re going to major in. It is suprising to hear that 80% prospectives are undecided. That is a huge amount! For those who already come to college with a major in mind, those students end up switching 2 to 3 times before graduating.

Role of Religion

identity

Lately, I’ve been pondering on the how well we follow our religion. We inherit the religion that our parents have followed and it is only natural for us to follow it. However, I do know some people who do not follow the religion they are born into because they feel that it there exists no such thing as “god” and that the religion is too controversial in the religious books. When young, most kids do not have a choice of what religion they want to follow, or if any at all, but once they are old enough to make their own decisions, it is easier for them to convert to other religions or philosophy based religions. A general controversy relates back into history when many wars came about because of religious conflicts, and if wars cause deaths then how does sin and religion relate?

Vitamins: Good or Bad?

healthy food

I stopped taking vitamins for the past year and recently starting taking them when coming to school. I never really thought vitamins did anything beneificial to me, or that I couldn't feel any different after taking so for some reason I just didn't care. My mom told me that I should start taking them and urged me to take them regularly without forgetting. So, I did. Then I heard recently that vitamins increase your appetite and I was like wow, that's not a good thing.

Astrology

As a believer in astrology, I find it very interesting how people can actually see the future based on the positions of the stars and planets. A lot of people don't believe in astrology, palm readings, and other types of readings because the predictions have turned out to be false. I've had my palm read randomnly at a friend's graduation party, where an astrologer was hired for entertainment on the side. The lady who told me about my future seemed like she was making things up because they were so randomn and just didn't make any sense. Suprisingly, a few of her predictions were accurate as I found out a year later. At the same time many were not true, or at least have not come true. Other times, I've had my birthchart read by astrologers who have been practicing reading these charts their entire lives and they are entirely accurate. So, I guess it makes more sense to go to a person that is a well known astrologer. I've heard that finding out about your future can mess with your mind about making present decisions. Also, it can get annoying how these untrustworhy astrologers who are BSing you and just want your money.

Netflix for Handbags!

fashion

Today after such a long time I was watching tv and with the few channels I get in my room I ended up watching the Tyra show. First, Tyra's big hit was America's Next Top Model, and now the Tyra show. A girl came on the show who had a obsession with handbags to the point that she would live on Ramen Noodles and Macaroni and Cheese, just so she could save enough to buy designer bags. The pocket money her mom would give her last time, all of the $3,000 was spent on a handbag. It was so ridiculous to the point that she didn't end up having enough to even buy basic needs such as toilet paper and food. Suprisingly, she's an economics major and the way she thinks about her spending is that an average per day for each handbag doesn't come out to be a lot of money and therefore she finds it aliright to buy more. Tyra introduced Bag Borrow or Steal , which operates similarly to Newtflix. There are 3 levels of monthly memberships and for each level there is an limited price range of bags you can borrow.

The Effects of Stress

Health

Even though it isn't brought up as much as it should be, college stress can be harmful in ways we immediately recognize and others that will hit years later. I, myself am beginning to see the workload increase week by week and although I don't show it because obviously other people would do not care. Especially here at Bryn Mawr, where everyone is pushed to the limit academically. I think becase of being stressed out lately I am having side effects...I know it's weird but its true...

Nothing like NYC!

I mean Philly is nice and all, but I think it's a dull city. I've gone during the daytime usually but even then it's sometimes empty looking and I can't even imagine how it must be during the night. Of course there's exceptions if a special event or something is going on it would be really busy, but usually it seems dead.
I went home to Jersey this weekend for my brother's birthday. Saturday night me, him, and a bunch of his friends went to NYC to celebrate.

No Cookies for Cookie Monster!?

Yesterday during lunch the subject of childhood tv shows came up. All of us were looking back on all the shows that we used to watch as kids such as Hey Dude, Salute your Shorts, Reading Rainbow, Strawberry Shortcake, Doug, The Hidden Temple, Double Dare, and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and none except a few are still being played today...such as Sesame Street. Sesame Street is my all time favorite...7am mon-fri PBS.

First Impressions

I don't think many people care enough about their business cards that they have a professional designer come up with ideas that fit their profession. They way people present themselves is very important, because even though some might not agree with me...first impressions are very important. Even a little business card that is catchy can do a lot. I remeber from my personal experience when mingling and meeting people at a cocktail party that I was dragged to go to with my older brother.

Addicted

I'll admit that I've been one of those people addicted to My Space and Xanga. I never even wanted to create one of those pathetic, time consuming journal things. Everytime I would go on AIM, on people's profile I'd see the link that took me to one of those bloggers and I'd entertain myself by reading what's going on in my friends' lives. I even remember suprising a friend by knowing too much that went on in his life. Somehow I got sucked in and made a Xanga last summer, I kept it updated everyday for about a month and then I just gave up. Sometimes I was very lazy and at other times I just did not want some people reading it...at the same time I did want many to read it.

Procastinating too much...

School ended back in May and since then I almost stopped procastinating....and recently it has started again. So I ended up going home Sat. night for no reason and wasted a good day doing nothing but watching tv, talking to my old buddies, and getting stuff for my room. By the time I actually sat down to do work I was falling asleep...I was rereading the same sentence too many times and it just was not making any sense so I went to bed. Sunday I came back to BMC and I procastinated even more. A friend of mine had the the chance to meet someone she really wanted to at Haverford...and she wanted me and another friend to tag along because it was pretty late.

Being a mawrter is all about...

I must admit I was very scared before coming to Bryn Mawr...one of my biggest fear was about fitting in. Having gone to co-ed schools all my life I wasn't too sure of this all girls thing. The past week has been amazing, each night with a new adventure with the new friends I have made. It bothers me how for the most part the campus is so dead after 9pm , but I guess it's good in a way because then I'll force myself to go to my room and do work instead of visiting people. With the frequent visits to Haverford I think I'm beginning to understand the Bryn Mawr community and closeness we have with one another.


Comments by The RuRu


by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-12-12 20:25
I have spoken to a lot of my friends in Gujurati and Hindi when I don't want other non-speakers to know what I'm saying, but this only out of school. My friends and I know it annoys people because they think we're talking about them, and chances are we probably were. In school English should be spoken and I think it is wrong for people to speak in other languages they know. The official language is English so therefore it is only right to speak Enlgish in school and public areas. They shouldn't get suspended for it because they aren't doing anything harmful to anyone else.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-12-12 19:49
College students go through a lot of medication expecially during exam times. Caffeine pills and ADD pills are becoming a fad. Energy drinks such Red Bull, Starbucks double expresso and Vitamin Water (focus and Power-C flavors) are becoming very popular. One of my friends often takes too many pills a day and she loses her appetite and skips meals. Pills can really damage your health and lifestyle. I myself am getting attached to vitamin water and it works so well as an alternative to drinking coffee.
by The RuRu on Wed, 2005-11-30 17:10
It's hard to say whether or not the online donation will work because if dropping by one of those salvation army boxes people usually put in a lot of change and lots of one dollar bills. The donations online for real items will cost a lot more than the donation people would be giving outside the store. Also, there's the opportunity cost of time involved and there's not going to be many people wasting their time going online to do charity shopping, whereas, before all they had to do is drop a few bills or change.
by The RuRu on Wed, 2005-11-30 16:59
I think that if workers are allowed to spend time shopping online, they aren't going to be as efficient in comparison to simply doing their work. The thing is one break leads to many more and a employee's work ethic will become weak. They might not so obviously be more efficient, but what counts is that they stay in that working mode and that they have the right mindset when they are in the office. This could possibly lead to more ideas and thinking that pertain to whatever job that employee does and benefit the employer.
by The RuRu on Wed, 2005-11-30 09:11
A three day weekend or anything close to to that is how all colleges should keep it. I think that way students would study intensively monday through thursday and then they could start partying thursday. Even though there would be more partying, I think that students would feel done with the scene by sunday and would be able to focus more on studies during mon-thurs. For this semester I scheduled my classes in a way that on friday's I'm finished at eleven and then done for the week and its great, but it would be even better if no such thing as friday classes existed.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-11-28 16:55
I didn't go shopping Friday because I knew it would be too much of a hassle trying to find parking and waiting in lines. But, I ended up going Saturday evening with my Mom and it was crazy! I remember going to at least four stores where I wanted to buy clothes but the winding line throughout the store discouraged me. An hour for just a few purchases was just not worth it. For the first time I came home with nothing. It was pathetic. I didn't have the patience to wait in line for almost an hour at each store. Winter break is not that far away, so it might be a better idea to go during the week when it won't be nearly as crowded. To be honest, I think that some of these shoppers were just buying because everyone else was shopping like crazy. Everyone shopping like there's no tomorrow seems more of a not feeling left type of thing.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 20:12
College education has become very expensive, but I think the general price tag is around the same, that is excluding in state or community colleges. But what really increases the fees are the other expenses that add up, especially those in the city schools. It's just a lot more tempting to spend money there and everything such as food and other things are more expensive. I guess being at Bryn Mawr there's not many places you can go to on a daily basis so everyday expenses really can't be all that much.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 20:02
I'm not too sure this is a good idea because friends might be not able to trust one another is they don't like a product. That would lead to being paronoid about who's telling the truth and who is not. Yeah, sure it'll increase advertisement, but it can also backfire if a friend tells another friend that that product is not worth going for then it might just not work.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 19:59
Life used to be so simple back then. Now it's stress and worries constantly. But, it is really nice to think about these things most of us probably experienced as kids and when even the smallest things mattered so much.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 19:33
This was pathetic. Honestly. Useless.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 19:21
If you know your're parents might even have the slightest chance in your blogs, it's quite simple that you don't post anything about your personal life that you don't want anyone to know about. If you really feel the need to write down stuff about your personal life then try doing Xanga or one of those with personal entries. But not here. So there really is no reason for people to worry or complain. Also, no one probably cares to read about anyone else's life so you shouldn't be posting personal stuff in the first place and there is plenty to write about universal topics.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 19:15
It was some experience. Before Lantern Night I thought it was just an overrated event where we got our lanterns, sang a song and went back to our dorms. I now feel that I'm a mawtyr. The whole ceremony was so well planned and the weather and beautiful starry night sky really topped it off. I hope the other traditions are just as good, if anything better.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 10:17
Lantern was an awesome experience! But it didn't last too long. As soon as the "Sophia" song was over and we turned around to pick up our lantern, well my lantern went dead at that moment. I asked one of my friends to give me her lighter, but she refused and instead everyone was asking when wedding invitations would be sent out. I really hope this tradition is false, this is coming from the girl who was planning on being a bachelorette for life.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 10:15
That is just so wrong. I understand that he wants to protect the school's image and people talking disrespectfully about the school, however, just because it's a private school doesn't mean that they can interfere with a kid's personal life and whatever they do. I went to a private school, and I remeber two years ago there was a whole issue about Xanga and displaying personal imformations and entries. A lot of kids got in trouble, their parents were informed about the entries that related to school and other stuff that was illegal. But in the end, it is a private school and basically you have to cooperate with them and their rules or else you're out.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 09:53
The test was partially true for me. I've taken this one before. They're kind of fun.
by The RuRu on Tue, 2005-11-01 09:49
Focusing on work is a LOT easier at Bryn Mawr, and yet it never feels like we're cut off from boys and the rest of the world. Sunday-friday is the usual workload and classes but then once friday hits I feel that I can go catch up on socializing whereever out of the three schools that may be. Coming from a co-ed school I thought it would be hard to adjust, but it really isn't that bad. I do miss having my guy friends and sometimes I do hate all the cattiness and drama on campus, so I guess it depends on your priorities.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-17 23:39
Credit Cards can sometimes be tricky with special low interest rate offers and people who fall for those are usually the younger crowd who believe that if they can borrow money at almost a non existent interest rate that it's "good". People need to understand the long run not the short run. I think that people are statisfying their excessive short run needs and thats causing debt. Credit cards are almost addictive, you get one, and then you have an amount due on it, so you open another one, and another one and then next thing you know all the small debts add up to a huge sum. Even the smartest people sometimes get caught up with credit card problems so the best option would probably be cash or debit.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-17 23:24
When I met up with my friends over the weekends they told me about how their lives were going and whatnot and other schools suck compare to BMC. It really feels like the people here care about you and that your not just a number here. From the way the my friends were describing their weekends and the parties, they were telling me about how people could easily get in trouble and the consequences that they almost suffered. I was really shocked because here they're somewhat leniant and care more about our safety which is kind of comforting.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-17 23:10
Yeah that annoys me too, when stupid questions are asked. It wastes time that could have been spent on classwork or on something useful the professor has to say. If someone has a question about an assignment they should just wait till class is over and then ask the professor. As for those who try to correct the teacher unessarily are obviously showing off as well as showing that they have no common sense.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-17 22:57
Well even if they cancel prom, it's not going to make a difference. That's right, semi formal will turn out to be mor extravagant than expected to replace prom. But, as for those who don't go to semi, they might just go party on their own in the city if they're old enough, or have a house party. Lot of parents are okay with their children and their friends drinking as long as they don't leave or drive. So, it might just be that parents too get really pissed just as I'm sure the kids are and end up throwing parties where there will only be drinking. I mean prom is PROM, the event that is looked back on as part of high school memories. It sucks that these kids won't have that memory to look back on.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-17 22:57
Well even if they cancel prom, it's not going to make a difference. That's right, semi formal will turn out to be mor extravagant than expected to replace prom. But, as for those who don't go to semi, they might just go party on their own in the city if they're old enough, or have a house party. Lot of parents are okay with their children and their friends drinking as long as they don't leave or drive. So, it might just be that parents too get really pissed just as I'm sure the kids are and end up throwing parties where there will only be drinking. I mean prom is PROM, the event that is looked back on as part of high school memories. It sucks that these kids won't have that memory to look back on.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-17 22:45
I procastinate a lot but only when I know I can actually do the work and not go crazy because I don't understand it or something. When it's a big project or something complicated then I do it a few days before it's due. I don't think it's really a disease, that is extreme. Also, I think that a person's procastination affects others and then they also start putting things off. So, in that sense it might be contagious and kind of like a disease.
by The RuRu on Thu, 2005-10-13 20:50
Maybe Mary is just used to Len dominating her that and she isn't confident enough to confront her opinion. If she is old then it might be that she's passive like women used to be back in the day, from what I know. So, perhaps she doesn't have the modern woman mindset of speaking about issues that at one point and time only men handled, such as maintaining property matters. But, I have to say that is very cheap of them. They probably are thinking that if they tell and let people know that they're using bedpans, their neighbors will get it fixed, out of pity. That too, of making others feel ashamed to help fix their problems is like an old mindset. I mean people nowadays are just so blunt, they don't care.
by The RuRu on Thu, 2005-10-13 20:31
I actually really was glad nothing changed at home, it felt comforting. For the first time I think I've really looked at my family in a different way. They are still the same people, but I appreciate them a lot more. An incident that made me feel like nothing changed was when my Dad saw me reading my econ book, just like I would have done so in highschool at 2am, we both laughed and he was telling me how it reminded him of me in highschool how some things just never change. When I visited my high school, I agree it was weird seeing the seniors as seniors! Yeah, some people I ran into haven't changed one bit, then again it's only been a few months since seeing them. Friends that I don't see as much I could care less about how much they have changed. As for my best friends I do care about them changing because it could affect my friendship with them.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-10 23:32
I know soft drinks are bad for your health, but I never knew what was so bad about them besides the sugar content. Deacaying teeth and bones because of soft drinks seems a little weird, but I guess most of us don't really think about the long terms effects of drinking soda. I, personally drink diet soft drinks, which I'm sure aren't any better than the normal, but somehow I'm convinced splenda or one of those sweetners is not as harmful. I've heard there's now sodas with less sugar or no sugar and calories, but they're probably just as bad.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-10 22:47
For the past nine years I've had to wear uniforms and at times I wish there hadn't been restrictions. When I was younger I didn't care as much, it was like a routine everyday, monday through friday, picking jumpers, shirts, skirts and slacks in colors of navy blue and khaki. During middle and high school the uniform was getting a little tiring. My school added gray to the school uniform code , but even then it was just so boring to wear those colors everyday. We didn't have to buy our clothes from any company, as long as is it was a plain color and didn't have any extra pockets and whatnot it was fine. Lot of people would compare their designer shirts, cardigans, ties and shoes. People would even compliment one another! Dress code at the university level I think is ridiculous, well at least in the US. I understand how it can be an issue in India, where the men are always harassing the girls and there can be indecent folk everywhere. But, in the US, men don't harass women and make it obvious the way they do in India. Also, if unifroms existed at colleges, in a way it would be taking away freedom. When older and working we are going to have to wear normal clothes, so I guess it doesn't make sense wearing uniforms in college.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-03 21:41
I think guys who comment negatively on others wearing pink are just insecure. Before it was a big deal for guys to wear pink...but now it's the "in" color for guys. Sometimes guys ask girls for their opinion on the whole pink thing...and from what I know, many girls think pink looks very good on men because it shows a softer side. As for those guys who are immature and don't agree, I think they are just not keeping up with fashion. Another thing is that if you notice guys who do make jokes and whatnot are in high school...they probably just follow the crowd and don't speak for themselves.
by The RuRu on Mon, 2005-10-03 21:26
Because hybrids are the new thing, they are of course, more expensive. However, after a while maybe a year or two I think the prices will go down and that's when everyone will really start buying them. For some cars I've heard it does pay off to buy a hybrid so it might depend on which car a person is looking to buy and plus how many times you get you car tank filled. For the lesser expensive cars it might come out to not be worth buying a hybrid, but as for the more expensive cars, owners who are paying two or three times as much for gas because they need a higher octane of gas, it might be worth getting a hybrid....so i guess it just depends.
by The RuRu on Fri, 2005-09-30 19:53
I can't believe that that man didn't even feel any guilt, the kid might have had a chance to live. Living with the guilt that someone died because of me, in any way would be so disturbing...like even the smallest things like lying to friends or family doesn't let me have a peace of mind...I can't even vision what that man must be going through. Plus, it was an accident too, if he had gotten help then he might have not gotten in as much trouble as he probably is in right now.
by The RuRu on Fri, 2005-09-30 18:01
I'm always changing passwords as I come across new registrations for email, or online memberships ...so on. It gets very annoying how some registrations require to have a certain letters and numbers and if you don't log in that often then you forget and have to have the password emailed. For those who have to go through nine or more, it's a lot but I think its worth it for protection, better than have regrets of other people accessing your account. It's funny how the people use post-it notes with their passwords and yet they don't want anyone to find out about it in anyway.
by The RuRu on Fri, 2005-09-30 17:41
I think that people are finally getting used to men wearing pink. I mean how did it all start that pink was one of those hottest colors for men to wear? The trend took off pretty well with those who were brave enough to show that they well were secure with themselves being men. But, then there's always others saying that pink is just wrong on men. If the walls are painted pink, I think they might just not be taken seriously. I don't think they should start off to an extreme by doing everything pink because then it really might be like a joke. Who knows, maybe they'll start the trend and pink will not be limited to only shirts.
by The RuRu on Thu, 2005-09-29 12:12
Hey...it happens! Sometimes I have a hard time blogging and the thing is I never feel like blogging unless I feel it's something everyone can relate to or it has a point to it. It gets hard to just think of randomn things that are meaningful and the whole point of this blogging is to write freely about our thoughts and persepctives on issues out there. Before it took me a good while thinking about what I was going to blog, but after blogging for a month I'm kind of getting used to this.
by The RuRu on Thu, 2005-09-29 12:01
I too am in your Urban Culture and Society class and the development of these megamalls seems very surreal. I mean destinyusa gives an impression that they are going to incorporate all the wants of individuals under one roof, but what about the wants varying from person to person. Maybe for regions like Syracuse where it's always cold, this might be ideal to attract more people from outside of that area to come, but it just doesn't sound like this destiny place will be real. I'm from New Jersey and it is nice to have plenty of malls around but I'm not sure I would want everything to be under a bubble...it would be weird.
by The RuRu on Thu, 2005-09-29 09:02
I've heard that mono is going around and besides that people are just getting sick. It seems liek everyone's always tired so they drink caffeine drinks and then when they start crashing they drink more...and without a suffiecient amount of sleep constantly being tired would not be suprising. I've been trying to get six hrs per night, but a friend of mine sleeps only a max of 3 hrs a night...it's insane. I definitely would not be able to function.
by The RuRu on Wed, 2005-09-28 23:04
I, too agree with you on the housekeeping. Even though lot of people don't realize how much of a difference a clean environment can make...it does. Also, when a room is clean, you'll be less likely to get sick, and find things more easily. The cleaning ladies are awesome...and are always willing to provide you with whatever you need so there's never that excuse of...there wasn't a mop or vacum.
by The RuRu on Sun, 2005-09-25 23:58
yeah I must admit that it is getting a little boring. I mean every night it feels like another sleepover when staying up late and doing work with friends. Then on weekends when I do go out it always feels like a girls night out type of thing. I'm used to having a few really good guy friends and it is hm...different being always with other girls...but hey it's only been a month...maybe it won't be as bad as it looks right now.
by The RuRu on Thu, 2005-09-22 00:01
You really seem like you want to change this whole wasting food thing around...I think it is an really good idea and that you should go ahead with it. I don't know if you'd start a club or not. Everyone wastes so much food thinking that none will be left when they get up to get more next, but if you made everyone aware that they are wasting food and that people who don't have any could possibly eat that and when people hear about the amounts being thrown away I think it'll get some sense into them.
by The RuRu on Wed, 2005-09-21 23:49
Fast food is tempting but healthier food can save some time I guess from going to the gym and working out longer. Ideally, everyone wants to eat healthy but especially being away from home and only being able to get foods certain hours of the day I found it difficult to eat healthy. As for people who leave early morning and come home very late, and are drained of energy their only option is to eat fast or frozen foods but spending time on cooking to me is worthwhile even if that means compromising time that could be spent doing other things.
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